When it rains, it pours
Thank you all so very, very much for the kind thoughts and comments about our sweet Nala. I read every comment many times over the weekend, and the prayers are so appreciated. I’m sorry I haven’t responded to each comment, but honestly, I just couldn’t. It was a hard weekend.
You know how sometimes when one thing goes wrong, everything else seems to snowball behind it and absolutely nothing you touch seems to go right?
Yeah, that is pretty much my life right now.
I got a ticket on Saturday night. Because I ran a red light, supposedly. I tried to explain the difference between yellow and red to the officer, but he was apparently color blind. I guess to legally go thru a yellow your front tires have to be past the white line of the intersection. Mine were not. I pointed out to him that if I had really been trying to run a red I would not have done it with a police officer sitting at the intersection. He really didn’t care. Oh well. Maybe I should’ve used the excuse that my dog died.
My ticket led to me being late picking up my son from a birthday party. And because I am a contender for the Mother of the Year title, I wasn’t just a little late picking him up. Oh no. He was the last kid left. I’m sure the mom that was waiting with him had plenty of nice thoughts about me and my parenting skills. Especially after I tried to explain to her I was late because I got pulled over.
My son had an early baseball game Saturday morning. I went, but I did get there a little late. After I got there and said hi to my husband and son, another mom looked at me and said, “I know how you feel, I overslept too.” So even though I knew I looked like something that had just rolled out of bed with a greasy ponytail and puffy eyes, it felt really good to have her re-affirm just how bad I looked.
I worked on the dining room this weekend. Hanging crown molding and painting trim. And because I misjudged exactly how much of the ceiling the crown molding would cover when it was hung, I now have a lot of touching up to do to the ceiling. I should have taped off the ceiling. Being lazy has ended up causing me more work. And much frustration.
My oldest daughter had a sleepover this weekend. It was a birthday party for a new friend. I wasn’t sure about her sleeping over; I don’t know this girl or her family, but she really wanted to and I do trust her. Most of the time. Plus, she was just a block away, and other kids whose parents I know were there, so that made me a bit more comfortable. When I dropped her off the mother asked if I had their phone number and I assured her I did. The next morning when my oldest didn’t call and didn’t call and didn’t call saying she was ready to be picked up, do you think I could find that phone number? No. So I sent my other daughter over on her bike to collect her sister. Because I was an I’ve-been-painting-and-hanging-crown-molding-mess. And also, my dog died. I just hope she remembered to say thank you.
So basically, everything around here felt like a big mess this weekend. I was a mess. The house is in a Mom’s-doing-a-project-and-neglecting-everything-else state of mess. And also, I randomly break out into tears anytime I come across something that reminds me of Nala. Especially her spot on the floor under the window in the dining room. The dining room, you know, the room I’ve been working in all weekend?
No wonder I’m a wreck.
Last night I discovered my youngest daughter took a black Sharpie to Koko, our yellow lab. Light yellow. Black Sharpie. She now is a yellow lab with a few cheetah spots and a long stripe running down her entire right side.
Who exactly is in charge around here?
Because right now, it sure isn’t me.
And to top off our train wreck of a weekend, I started off this week by lying to my kids. And now they are all at school and I feel guilty. But not really guilty enough to do anything about it.
I sent the kids to school today without lunches and told them to get hot lunch. When they asked me what was for hot lunch, I told them I didn’t know because I had not gotten the October lunch calendar yet. I assured them it was probably something good that they liked.
And I sent them out the door.
I do know what was for hot lunch today. I know full well it is something all three of them do not enjoy. I know they will probably pick at their lunch and come home starving. But I did it anyway.
Because have I mentioned the thing about me, about everything, being a mess around here right now?
Posted: October 6th, 2008 under Embarrassing Myself with my Ramblings, Home, Nala, Not So Good..
Comments: 18
Comments
Comment from Queen B
Time: October 6, 2008, 10:32 am
Um. I think you need a break. The dining room is not going anywhere. Leave it alone for a few days. Why don’t you go do something just for you for a few hours and then maybe you’ll come back a little refreshed.
The kids will not die from picking at their lunch.
Koko’s hair will fade. Or grow. But it doesn’t matter. Let that go.
The ticket stinks. You are not a bad mom for being late or losing a phone number or going to a game looking less than perfect.
It will get better.
Go get a massage.
Comment from Tammy
Time: October 6, 2008, 10:41 am
I’m with QB on this one. Sounds like you need to take a little time for yourself. A massage, a long quiet walk and evening out ALONE. You deserve it. Heck, every mom deserves it every once in a while. We always spend our time doing for others and forget ourselves.
Blessings and prayers! I hope your week gets better!
Comment from sheila
Time: October 6, 2008, 11:21 am
here’s to a brand new week ahead!
and yes it seems like when it rains it pours, that’s for sure!
Comment from chickadee
Time: October 6, 2008, 11:32 am
that is so sad about your dog! it’s just terrible and shocking.
i hope you get some quiet time this week to rest and recover.
Comment from Lynette
Time: October 6, 2008, 12:11 pm
Bless your heart. I agree - take a break - a much deserved break. I feel for you.
Comment from Heather of the EO
Time: October 6, 2008, 12:45 pm
I often think I need a break too, but then I can’t figure out how to take one. I hope that’s not the case for you. I hope you have a way to take one and then take it. Cause yeah, this hasn’t been a good week. I’m sorry!
Comment from Nicole@OnTheRun
Time: October 6, 2008, 1:12 pm
I think I just said, “bless her heart” a million times while reading that.
You need a Route 44. STAT. ASAP. NOW.
And maybe some mozzarella sticks for a fun after-school snack when the starving kids arrive home.
Comment from the roost
Time: October 6, 2008, 1:13 pm
Girl, Girl, Girl…..I know you didn’t mean that to be a funny post….but I laughed…out loud…BECAUSE I have been there way too often…even the lying stuff…I have lied about things to them because I knew it would be a scene if I didn’t. NOT RIGHT but I did… You have had a lot hit you at once. Anytime I do a project things get crazy. NEVER fails…..Slowly put one foot in front of the other and don’t be too hard on yourself. You are a great mom! :>)
Comment from kristen@nosmallthing
Time: October 6, 2008, 2:32 pm
Can I just say that I know how you are feeling–I truly know. I’ve been there, and it ain’t pretty. Hang in there is all I can say. You know a day will come when you can think of Nala and smile. It really will happen. But prepare yourself that the bursting into tears now and then will also happen. It’s a tough thing to go through.
But you will get through it. (((hugs))) from Kristen, out here in VA. Wish I could give you a REAL hug. They’re so much better.
Comment from Kelly @ Love Well
Time: October 6, 2008, 7:11 pm
Lisa! What a horrible weekend. I’m so sorry, my friend.
It has to get better from here, right?
Comment from Chrissy
Time: October 6, 2008, 8:02 pm
It must get better, it must get better! right?! I sure hope things start looking up for you!
Comment from Lisa
Time: October 6, 2008, 8:49 pm
Hey Lisa,
Sorry to hear about your dog. Thats gotta be hard for you guys.
Take care..the dining room looks so different in blue! I cant wait to see the finished product. But, you know..it CAN wait..
My mom gave me great advice once…
“Honey..no one ever died from a dirty floor.” as I was crying my ass off from taking care of 2 little babies and moving into a new~old house..
It all will get better, in time.Promise.
we will say a little prayer for Nala tonight. Sorry…
Lisa
coastal nest
Comment from Jen
Time: October 6, 2008, 9:34 pm
Just found your blog! Here’s an internet hug from a total stranger!! 
I can relate to having weekends like that and feeling like a crappy mom! Focus on all of the good that you do for your kids and forget about the bad days. Funny to read about the school lunch- I’ve tried to hide the lunch menu on days that I just couldn’t find the time to pack. My daughter survived!! I’m sure your kids will, too. So sorry to read about you dog- very sad. Hope you have a better week!
Blessings,
Jen @ Creative and Curious Kids! (http://raisingcreativeandcuriouskids.blogspot.com)
Also, can find me at God’s Shining Stars! (http://godsshiningstars.blogspot.com)
Comment from Carolyn
Time: October 7, 2008, 6:50 am
Lisa…I can totally feel for you right now. Must be in the air or something.
I don’t know if you meant this to be funny, but I was smiling as I was reading. You have such a way with words.
I hope that this week is a better week for you. If you feel like you can take some time for yourself and let some of this go for a little while, I think it may do ya some good. You so deserve a break.
I’ve so done that with my kids before…I think most mom’s have at one time or another.
The dog and the ticket were enough to deal with for a long time.
And the mom at the game…well, that wasn’t nice at ALL!
Comment from Pattik
Time: October 7, 2008, 10:33 am
Bless your heart! You are a good Mom that needs
some ME time. Do it. You will feel better.
Your plate has been overflowing. I actually have
worried about you, with the dog and all. I have
been there. Really hard. Take care,there is always
another day. Hugs your way!
Comment from Becky
Time: October 7, 2008, 12:44 pm
Oh sweetie, it will get better. I’m sure of it. It may seem like everything is barreling out of control but it will get better.
I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers as always!!!
Comment from Jill
Time: October 7, 2008, 1:45 pm
Lisa- I so far behind on blog reading and I’m sorry to hear about your sweet dog. I can only imagine how hard it has been for all of you. I’ll be thinking of you and keeping you in my prayers. (And, PS…. painting takes me so long and I make so many mistakes and misjudgements that my husband prefers just to do it himself in 1/3 the time. And I gladly let him!)
Comment from Traceytreasure
Time: October 7, 2008, 3:18 pm
Oh Lisa, I did not know that you lost a furry friend. I send you my condolences and super, big, smothering hugs. Oh, how I wish I knew what to say…..
You should have told the officer that you thought he wanted to race or you were speeding to get him some donuts, or that your dog died.
Maybe he would have been nicer!
Please know that I’m thinking about you now and I’m hoping that happier days come your way real, real soon!!
Hugs and love, T
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